FIELD NOTES | ENTRY #002
Most people try to change their lives by changing their behavior, but behavior that isn’t anchored in Being won’t hold.
You don’t just need better habits.
You need a clearer identity.
Because no matter how hard you work, you will never consistently act in ways that contradict who you believe you are.
Being comes first.
It’s the first Coordinate in The Compass for a reason.
Before Doing, Having, or Sharing — there’s Being.
And that question isn’t:
“What are you doing with your life?”
It’s deeper:
Who are you becoming?
Not who do you want to be.
Not who do people think you are.
Not who you used to be before things fell apart.
Who are you becoming right now, decision by decision?
When I was rebuilding, I had to face this:
My actions weren’t out of alignment with my values.
They perfectly aligned with my real values — the ones I lived, not the ones I claimed.
The late nights.
The angry silences.
The numbing.
The procrastination.
The shortcuts.
They weren’t anomalies.
They were evidence.
Being isn’t static.
It’s not a trait. It’s a direction. A trend.
And if you’re not defining it deliberately,
you’re becoming something by default.
This is living (and being) by accident rather than by intent.
This week, I’m asking you to look in the mirror —
Not for flaws, but for evidence.
Not what you say you value.
But what your schedule, your habits, and your reactions reveal.
Because clarity begins when denial ends.
And you can’t build a new life while lying to the person you are now.
Ask yourself:
What traits am I cultivating, consciously or not?
What kind of person would my habits build in five years?
Is this who I want to become?
If not — change doesn’t begin with action.
It begins with identity.
You don’t act your way into a new life.
You become your way there.
This is the work.
The quiet, foundational, unsexy work of Becoming.
It’s not for the ‘Gram.
It’s where The Compass starts.
And where most people stall.
But you’re not most people.
You’re reading this.
You’re in the climb.
Keep going.
Weekly Compass Question: Who are you becoming — by default or by design?
Trail Task: Watch one repeated behavior today. Ask: “What story is this behavior telling about who I am?”
Resource from the Trail
Ego Is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday — on killing the false self so the real one can rise.
Until next week —
Engage. Adapt. Overcome.
— Remy